Why Dictionary’s Definition of ‘Single’ Does Not Define Our Worth.

Single: (adjective)

  1. only one in number; one only; unique; sole
  2. of, relating to, or suitable for one person only
  3. solitary or sole; lone
  4. unmarried or not in a romantic relationship
  5. pertaining to the unmarried state
  6. of or noting a parent who brings up a child or children alone, without a partner.
  7. of one against one, as combat or fight.

Apparently Dictionary.com only sees the negative connotations of the word “single.” But there is one word that sticks out to me that doesn’t quite seem to match the rest of its seven descriptions:

unique

Single or in a relationship, we are all unique. And that uniqueness flows from our Creator.

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created him” (Genesis 1:27).

God created each and every single one of us uniquely. He fashioned the freckles on my arms, the blue hue in my eyes, and the brunette strands brushing across my forehead. He composed my personality type, the sound of my laughter, and the very breath I breathe.

God invented DNA.

“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139: 13-14).

You may be uttering under your breath, “Well, duh, of course I’m unique. Everyone else is in a relationship except for me…” And then you start to feel like Chandler Bing from Friends.

Woah there… Back up just a smidge.

At one point in our lives, we were ALL single. And then something happened.

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Maybe it was during high school or later in your twenties or thirties. But at some point, all of your friends shifted from the shallow end of the single pool to the deep end of dating.

So what if all of your friends are dating, engaged, or married except for you? Stop it with the culture-crazed “Woe is me I’m single!” phrase. Stop focusing on the “Why am I still single?”giphyChandler

Instead, start focusing on the “Who am I as a person?”

“Instead of being so focused on looking, perhaps you should commit a bit more energy to becoming.” –Andy Stanley, The New Rules for Love, Sex and Dating.

Dictionary’s definition of “single” does not define our worth.

God, the one who uniquely created us in His image, defines our worth. Our worth should be placed in the one who sent His Son into the world, not to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him (John 3:16-17).

And that’s pretty unique.

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