The Spiritual Single
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Why Rush Into a Relationship?

Dancing his way through Atlanta last night, Jack Frost twirled with the trees and coated every branch with tiny droplets of ice. The branches drooped lower and lower in attempts to high-five the ground, much like Charlie Brown’s Christmas Tree.

It’s the pocket-sized, ice sickle details in life that make the outfit complete. But often times, those details disappear when we’re hurriedly headed out the door.

Being in a hurry. Getting to the next thing without fully entering the thing in front of me. I cannot think of a single advantage I’ve ever gained from being in a hurry. But a thousand broken and missed things, tens of thousands, lie in the wake of all the rushing… Through all that haste I thought I was making up time. It turns out I was throwing it away.
― Ann Voskamp, One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are

Whether it’s speeding down I-4 to Justin Timberlake’s 20/20 Experience World Tour, sprinting across campus to turn in a written assignment or pulling a Dumb and Dumber at the Birmingham Airport, I always found myself in a hurry these past few years.
Hl69GK.gifBut guess what?

Literally (in Chris Traeger’s voice), Justin Timberlake’s concert started an hour later, my professor arrived five-minutes late to class, and while my plane did show up on time, I was the last one to board. Give me a time and I’ll be there 15 minutes late. It’s a work in progress.

But today, I am choosing to slow down and focus on simplicity.

Simplicity is ultimately a matter of focus.
― Ann Voskamp, One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are

Since both of my roommates are out of town, God has given me the simplicity of sitting in my living room and just being. The hurriedness and busyness of life pause for a moment. I become more fully aware of the details of His creation.

I reflect on my singleness.

If I believe Voskamp’s words to be true, then why am I in such a hurry to be in a relationship? I stare at the branches outside my window and notice the ice has already started to melt. But then I pay closer attention to the details. Melting takes time.

I called my grandmother the other day to tell her about my latest crush conundrum and she reminded me of God’s truth:

But do not overlook this one fact, beloved, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. 1 Peter 3:8

So if you’re like me and impatiently waiting for that guy to make a move, text you back, ask you out on a date, etc., remember God’s truth.

Don’t miss out on the details of your current story because you’re in a hurry to skip to the next chapter.

Why rush into a relationship? Practice patience. Fully enter into where God has you at this very moment.


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